I don’t understand why some expect girls to express themselves only with grace, while boys can be boisterous to applause. You expect girls not to raise their voices, be demanding or too assertive, but congratulate fighters, glorify male boxers.
We wrestle with the idea that a woman can be many things. If she chooses to get married and chooses to have children, you question her capacity or worse still her desirability in being more than a wife and a mother. Why are you offended when she says those things are not be enough
And if a married woman is multi faceted, her life fully rounded or in your view a bit too much, too much of this, too much of that, you raise your eyebrow and patronisingly try to put her in your box “oh it’s all okay, her husband doesn’t mind”.